I guess you could figure this out...
August 21, 2007
but my blogging days (at least in this capacity) are coming to a close. I just don't have a whole lot of time to spare. With football season coming up, my time in front of a computer (when it's not involving my job) is going to be spent updating my fantasy football league's website. I guess you can call it my escape or creative outlet. Still, to you my loyal readers, I owe you a quick recap of the last month and a half. So, in my final post here is what's happened:
- Batgirl has done her best to try to get in with my friends and their significant others. She gave it a real honest try, but the first time I saw just how cold you broads can be to one another. It's a damn shame because Batgirl is such a kind, caring woman. The shitty thing is she won't let me call those reponsibile out onto the carpet. It really puts me in a tough position to keep making up excuses, but there are ways that I will need to come up with that won't be so abrasive in order to open the girls' eyes more. For now, Batgirl is at her wits' end. I don't blame her, but it's very sad and very disappointing for me since I always thought when I met a special girl, she'd be treated well. Yeah, I'll admit that Batgirl hasn't always jumped on chances to spend time with the gang, but the sickening part is when she has made the effort, no one seems to really make her feel welcome. I just hope the day comes when those responsible for making her feel like shit realize their behavior is rude and inconsiderate.
- I moved into the parents house, however my name is still on my old house with my brother. With the real estate market not in a rosey state, banks have advised the two of us to stick this out and my brother and his girlfriend pay rent. Batgirl had a real issue with the idea of the brother and I maintaining our "business" relationship since she doesn't trust him, and the fear is that if something were to happen to the house it will affect our future. I admit it concerns me, too, especially since the girlfriend is a major financial liability with over $17K in credit card debts. It had looked like my brother got a good mortgage through Bank of America, however the value of the house is less than we owe on it, and we'd have to pay more out our pockets to get this deal done. I would be walking away, at best, with only half of what I would be getting from the equity we built up. Since I want to eliminate my debt and this is the way to get that to happen, I'm opting to keep my name on the house for a while and keep it between my brother and I, and my parents.
I feel awful keeping this from Batgirl, but the deal is that no matter what, by the time she and I get married, the house is going to have to have my name off it. Things between Batgirl and I have been a bit rocky, however things have been brightening up when I first told her it looked like my brother had a fair mortgage worked out with BOA. It was like a weight lifted off of us and we were heading in the right direction towards a life together. Then, the news came that the deal was too good to be true. I have not figured out how, or if I'll ever, tell her. Thing is, I'm going to keep looking for ways to get the house refinanced and my name off the mortgage. Even if my brother isn't really trying since the monthly payments would obviously increase from what they are now. - Life in the parents' place hasn't been so bad yet after nearly a month. I spend half the week at Batgirl's so I don't feel like I'm in a full house (my 21-year-old sister lives here too, but is usually out or working each night). I don't want to get too comfortable, and a part of me is ashamed I'm back here, but it is a means to an end. It's something I should have done when I first graduated college, and again when I moved back here from New Jersey in 2001.
- My 23-year-old cousin married her 30-year-old fiance two weeks ago. Oh, and they have a son who is about 6 months old. I feel old.
- Batgirl found some gray hairs on the side of my head, officially showing I'm getting older.
- Next weekend Vegas gets married. I never thought I'd see the day, especially when it was jut a couple of years ago when he told me there was no way he was getting marriend any time soon.
- You know you're getting old when one of your best friends since high school is doing a fantasy football draft...feeding, changing, and rocking his 2-month-old daughter.
Oh, and his team looks destined to be the worst in the league. Do you think he got a little distracted?
I wish I could have done a better job staying on top of this blog, especially now when my life is really going into a major chapter. Fact is, I just haven't had the same gusto like I did in the beginning of 2005 when I began writing my first blog. That was a fun one.
I also realize it was more fun to write a blog when I was single. There always seemed to be an interesting adventure in trying to find a woman who I could settle into a relationship with. Now that I did, I feel like I need to keep our life more private out of respect to her (she is very private about even the most minor of details).
Where will I be in the coming months, you may ask? Well, I hope to overcome my fear of the unknown and go out to by the engagement ring I've been planning to buy for over a month now. The questions keep coming back though. There have been times when I see how upset Batgirl gets when people in my life make her life get complicated, and I wonder how she hasn't told we can't make this work. Somehow, someway we always find the silver-lining and enjoy each other's companionship through it all. I still would like a little more of my own free time, but I think once the school year starts and she needs her time to deal with correcting tests and reading student essays things will even out. It was not the best of summers for us, but life can't always be peaches and cream.
This won't be the end of blogging for me. I am going to start a blog to document my fantasy football season and have it online by week one of the NFL season. I'm doing it because it won't take long to do a post, won't require frequent writing, and most importantly it will allow some escape for a half-an-hour a day. I know there is a market for the topic, especially this time of year when fellow "owners" look for that edge over the competition. I'm not an expert, just a guy who wants to keep track of his moves, and see what others will think of it.
All this said, thank you all who have shown such a great interest in my life in the last two years or so, and have done nothing but give me kind words of support. Sometimes the criticism was hard to take, but I always knew that between the lines, your words were typed with good intentions. While this may be an end for me on the realm of S0-This is My 30's-dom, it's still the necessary next step to take in my life. None of my friends and family (save one woman who I have lost touch with and feel guilty as all hell I don't speak to frequently anymore, but I still value everything she has been in terms of a friend over the years prior) knew about this blog, and quite frankly I felt guilty not to tell them about it. Especially Batgirl who was so often a topic here.
Like a fad, this blog is over. I'll leave it up for a little while so those of you who want to comment can do so, and believe me your well wishes will be appreciated. Take care all, and I hope we find each other on another corner of the Internet.
That 30's Guy
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